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Authentic Influence
The principle that influence doesn't require a specific personality type — extroverted, aggressive, “show up like a man.” Any personality can influence effectively by being authentic to who they are while applying the core skills of curiosity, empathy, and trust-building in their own way.
Where it comes from
Jessica Fain on Lenny's Podcast (~1:23:30): > “I think that something that has taken me a while in my career is how to be authentic to myself in influence, in relationships, in trust building. And I don't think that it's one personality type or another. I think that you could be shy and introverted or super data-oriented and technical. I think all types of personalities can in their own authentic way communicate with the people around them.” highlights/jessica-fain-influence — Full podcast context.
How it works
- Reject the “act like a man” advice: Fain was told to “show up more aggressively, more decisively” — and while there were some good nuggets, the real breakthrough was realizing “who I am and how I show up is actually my superpower” (~1:24:09)
- Don't copy someone else's style: “What I need to do is think about what I want to accomplish and how I want to grow and do that in a way that is true to me” (~1:24:33)
- All types work: Introverts can influence through written docs and one-on-ones; data-oriented people can influence through rigorous analysis; people-oriented people can influence through relationships
- The through-line is curiosity and empathy — these can be expressed through any personality
The goal is not to become a different person to influence effectively — it's to apply the influence principles (curiosity, empathy, listening, context-setting) through your natural strengths. Your authenticity is your credibility.